I believe Western Society has made men effeminate and have made women masculine. And we can all see that it isn’t working very well. There are many women who are succeeding wildly. They have college degrees, great jobs, great homes and other assets. Meanwhile, men are infantized children playing video games, eating poorly and afraid to talk to a woman romantically.
Society is crumbling. This experiment simply doesn’t work. Men and women are too different and they must have different roles. This means, we must return back to the traditional gender roles but we mustn’t make the same mistakes we made before that brought the societal changes that we see in the first place. My points aren’t arguing that all men and all women are like the way I describe. It is generally speaking, so many exceptions could occur. Here are some considerations to brood about.
For one, let us understand men. From my point of view, men primarily have a principle-based point of view when he looks at the world. When a man looks at the world, he sees it as it is without reference to himself and he tries to see how he can understand the world. And with this approach, men are naturally attuned to follow principles and ethics. Consequently, he is a shaper of his world according to those principles and he rarely lets the vagaries of human emotions disrupt his obedience to those principles. His submission to principle is ultimately his submission to God, and with this submission he finds his manhood. This is why men are called by God to be prophets, as man’s natural fidelity to principles and ethics leads him to this responsibility. Thus, a man looks at the world as it is and seeks to conform himself to the world and uses his understanding to shape the world as he desires.
Women seems to look at the world from the opposite direction. From my understanding, women look at the world primarily not by principles or ethics but how it relates to her. I often see women forsake principles and ethics for relationships because it relates to her in a manner that she finds agreeable to her. If the world does not conform to her manner of living and seeing it, then the woman tries to figure out how to make it so. Paradoxically, she does not seek to shape the world but expects the world to shape to her. One sees this play out when women are in leadership positions without a man, structure, tradition or institution over them. They tend to forsake principles and make decisions with no logical continuity to one another. They are highly intuitive and often change their minds if they believe something make sense to her. One sees principles and rules become loose and fragile until they are annihilated and hold no more power. This is because women see the world as conforming to her and any rules or principles are mere conventionalities or trivialities that can be ignore with no penalty incurred. Because ultimately her will and her fancy determines what is good and bad. Thus, a woman looks at the world as it relates to her and expects the world to conform to her.
With man’s manner of seeing the world, one can see that men are often thinking about the future. With man’s careful study of the world about him, he understands that change is inevitable and thus the grasp of the future crucial to thrive in the world. Meanwhile, women often live in the present and do not conceptualize the future very perceptively. She doesn’t think in principles or study the patterns of history but she has more interest in feelings and impressions around her. The only time she appears to be future-oriented is if it relates to her once again. Whether she gets married or has children tend to be her main concerns a great deal of times. Instead of logic and principle, she thinks of beauty and intuition. These traits make it very unlikely that women will think readily into the future and have the same anxieties and concerns that men have. Thus, men are more future-oriented and women are more present-oriented.
Men are primarily concerned about what he must do in the world. In fact, they are obsessed with the idea and if they have done nothing in the world, then his self-worth is consequently nothing. For a man to be a man at all, he must prove himself. He must prove that he is competent and he must prove that he is deserving of respect and honor. Naturally, what he does with his life procures him that merit and makes him whole as a man.
But this isn’t so with women. Women seem to be primarily concerned about relationships more than work and achievement. Her life is ordered by the quality of her relationships than her achievements at work. Many women in their 20s and early to mid 30s completely disagree, but it isn’t until they reach their late 30s and beyond that this worry start to surface wildly. If a woman doesn’t have a great relationship at a certain age, a certain angst seizes her quite readily and doesn’t let her go. And she is dominated by the desire to satisfy this angst so she can be whole.
Men are natural builders. With their understanding of the world, they use their knowledge to shape their area around them according to principles. They set the rules for ethics and the customs for society. They punish those whom they deem guilty of violating law and custom as they enforce the laws and customs upon them. Women are natural nurturers. They aren’t good at building. They are exceedingly good at turning a building into a hospitable, safe and comfortable environment. They turn a house into a home. One can see this when they enter a man’s house who lives totally alone versus a woman’s house who lives totally alone. The contrast is there.
In the end, I believe it is in society’s interests to give leadership power and responsibility back to men. Women should be encouraged to follow and be under a good man’s authority. However, she mustn’t be discouraged to lead if she has the ability to do so. And she mustn’t be discouraged to lead when a man isn’t available to lead. Women could lead as a man leads but she would have to go out of her natural instincts as a woman to do this and this could have some damage to her psyche over time. It is best we return back to traditional roles and repair the damage wrought by the last 70 years in gender relations. But I trust it would take a while to get to this point, but I imagine it isn’t impossible to accomplish.